DO PARENTS KNOW? | HELP CHILDREN PLAN FOR THE FUTURE: HELP THEM TO BE IMPROVED INSTEAD OF BEING PERFECT.

Parents always seem to want their children to get high scores, develop well to become the best they can be at school. But in fact, improving themselves every day is the most necessary thing to help your child have enough experiences to step firmly in the future. Children not only need to be educated with academic knowledge but also need to have skills in self-development and unleashing their potential. From an early age, parents can help their children improve themselves from the following simple things:

1. Let children face up and solve their own problems.

Not only adults, but children also face many problems every day, from difficulties in the learning process, pressure on grades, relationships with teachers and friends, physical health and mental health, etc. But not all children have enough skill or confidence to solve their problems.

If not guided by parents, children will become timid, thereby choosing to run away instead of facing and solving each problem. This is also the reason why many children have a lot of trouble in school as well as in their life. Children who lack problem-solving skills tend to lack careful thinking in everything and are not oriented to what they should do.

Therefore, teaching children to face problems and solve them will help them be more active in life, improve logical and critical thinking. When a specific problem occurs, parents should not help children do it right away. Instead, let your child analyze and define the problem. Parents can still be available to guide children when they need support, but it is still a priority to encourage children to solve their own problems first.

If your child is having trouble with giving solutions, parents can sit down with children to discuss what should be done to be effective, so that they can use their logical thinking, because young children often come up with new ideas, lots of creative solutions. Sometimes just a small suggestion can develop into a lot of great ideas on their own. And finally, don’t forget to praise your child every time they take the initiative to solve a problem.

2. Be ready for your child to stumble and learn to face challenges.

Parents always give the best thing for their children, but at some point, if you are not careful, that protection and love are very easy to counteract. Instead of making decisions for children, parents should let children choose their own path, live fully with dreams, ambitions, and face challenges. This is the best way to sharpen courage in your child. Parents cannot be with your children forever, so teach them how to be independent so that they can live happily.

Children need parents to protect and support them, but when they are incoming of age stage, parents should teach them to make their own decisions and take responsibility for life. This is also one of the core values that UTS always aims for: Courage. Let your children strongly pursue their dreams, orient themselves if they are wrong, support them when they fall, always follow every step, and accompany them. Letting children apply their knowledge and experiences to life will also make them more courageous.

Growing up is a process in which parents always have their back, not the ones who “roll out the velvet carpet” for the child to walk with legs that have no chance to be sturdy.

3. Let children develop their own potential

Each child will have a unique ability in each aspect. According to Professor Howard Gardner’s theory of multiple intelligences, there are eight types of intelligence that are identified and recognized in humans. Therefore, each child will have a unique ability to develop in one or a few certain aspects. Many parents have the assumption that their children need to study well at school, but this is not the case.

Each of you will have different strengths and we should not impose our subjective expectations on children. Parents need to pay attention to the interests of their children to develop what they are passionate about. When children learn and grow with their own passion, they will find joy in learning new knowledge. Understanding that, at UTS, each student is cared for and facilitated to develop their potential with appropriate study programs, helping them apply skills in real life, family, and society.

4. Encourage children to be integrity in all situations.

In addition to developing social and thinking skills, many parents are often subjective when it comes to helping children form character from an early age. Educating children with good virtues from an early age, especially the virtue of honesty, helps them shape their personality and decide for their next life.

To help children develop this quality, parents only need to apply simple methods: do not push the child into situations to try to see if he is lying or not, those situations will put them in a difficult position and will lie so as not to be punished. Instead, encourage your child to learn from the experience, be more careful the next time. Being too harsh will make your child afraid and not dare to take responsibility.

In addition, parents also need to be honest and dare to admit the personal weaknesses. Parents themselves are the biggest model for their children to look at. Sometimes, admitting your faults to your children makes you fear that your child will no longer respect you, but acting honestly and willingly to admit mistakes with your child will also help build trust and a good environment in the family. UTS also always puts integrity as one of the top qualities for nurturing students, which helps them to keep their trust and always say no to false behaviors.